Sunday, January 26, 2020

A Place For Feelings

 

 I think its important to have a place for your feelings. What do I mean by that you ask? Not a physical place but more of a time for meditation and deep thought. A friend or stranger that you can excuse your load of emotions onto without feeling guilty. But be careful, some of us use this in a sinister way. What I mean by finding a place for feelings is finding someone who will listen to you and allow you to vent. Nothing more, nothing less. Having a place for feelings is like having a safe haven. A secret location to deposit all of your inner most feelings without walking around in a mental prison.

         As humans we are social by design, but this can easily change based on social conditions. We have filters that we use when interacting with people and its important that we look past them when seeking a place to secure our feelings.

One hurdle that most people have to tackle is knowing that everyone has feelings. Don't worry you are normal. Some of us function better when we talk about them. Others rather stay to themselves and deal with their feelings alone. Both are fine, however I always encourage people to talk you'd be surprised how much you take away from conversations with others.

Make sure you place your feelings with someone you trust. Select a person that has proven you can depend on them and talk to them about anything without judgement and without everyone else knowing what you are going through. Its so important that we identify a place for our feelings. There are so many advantages to identifying this.

When we are able to share our inner most concerns, visions, ideas it allows us to be "free". Free of stress and worry. This in turn makes most people feel happy, and gives them confidence to take on each day. Some downturns to withholding your feelings, not seeking a place for them could cause you to implode with anger, resentment, worry or grief.

Ever heard the saying, "better out than in"? Well the saying is true. Most people feel better after they've talked about their feelings.

I encourage you to utilize the people around you whether you know them or not. You never know who's day you may uplift while talking about your feelings.
I also encourage you to be a listener also. Communication is a two-way street. The more we understand each other the easier it will become to talk about and explore our feelings.


I hope you enjoyed the read.

Danielle Williams
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Make Yourself Proud

Seeing growth within. Overcoming obstacles and hurdles, failures and dead-ends. Doing things that I never thought I would do. I think we owe it to ourselves to make ourselves proud. We spend our youth appeasing our mothers and fathers, aunts and uncles, grandparents, teachers...you name it.

But what about you? How many times did you accomplish something all because you wanted to make your parents proud? Most of us do it all the time even in adulthood. When is the last time you've made yourself proud? Or given yourself that self love we all deserve?

Today I faced my pride head on. I allowed myself to see "me" from someone else's view. I thought to myself, "Did I give it my all?" I put aside my insecurities and indifference's and chose my goals over my inner child.

Today I chose to rise to the occasion and eliminated fear from my being. Today I chose to face my unconscious fear square in the eyes. How often do we allow our pride to interfere with our divine path? We get so caught up in how it looks for us to try again or fail  that we forget about our purpose.



I've heard so many times, "each time you fail make sure you are taking something away from the experience." This saying is so valuable...take notes along the way. How many times have you failed at love? Did it stop you from living and breathing the next day?

It hurt like hell but you dusted yourself off and kept going, right? How many times have you failed a school exam? Or didn't land that perfect job you applied too? The reality is most of us have failed in almost every category I mentioned and we kept going.

Today I made myself proud.

           Sometimes we allow our negative thoughts to overpower our intentions. We can sabotage situations if we are not careful. I built the courage to reach out to a high end administrator with intentions on selling my idea to the organization.

I had a feeling of confusion, frustration and an inability to fully explain myself because of my preconceived notion of whom I was speaking. As a result, I didn't land the pitch how I planned. It left me feeling incomplete and upset on how poor I presented myself. I placed the next call and eloquently delivered the pitch of a lifetime and in that moment I realized something.

I allowed self doubt, fear and insecurity to seep in my previous attempt and it disrupted my purpose. I sat in my seat for a moment, debating on whether I should pick up that phone and try one more time.

As I battled myself I thought, "one or two things can happen, no answer or a second opportunity to shine bright like a diamond." I sucked it up and called, I immediately asked for a second chance to explain my purpose, what inspired my ideas, thoughts and my vision.

When the green light was given I had my notes and I took a deep breathe and let my soul speak. The response was promising and at the very least gave me hope that this person would actually look at my content and explore the possibilities of doing business with me. But if I allowed my pride to surface I could have potentially blocked my second chance of being heard.

The take away message is identify and overcome your weaknesses. Most importantly, PREPARE for what you've worked and prayed so hard for in this life. Never give up and do not allow fear or embarrassment to hinder what is meant for you.

After today I will no longer feel embarrassed because I made a human mistake. I will get up and continue to move in progress until I reach my destination to success. You should too.

Today I made myself proud.


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Danielle Williams
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Supportive Women




How Important is it for you to be a supportive women?

We should ask ourselves, how supportive am I? If you are always busy when one of your number one supporters ask you to attend an event or show up to a quick meetup, then you have your answer. The truth is, we are all very busy in our own lives however, it is important that we acknowledge those who share their time to support us. Whether its support, asking for favors to help you accomplish one of your goals or simply listening to your brainstorm and pitch ideas to aid you in your journey. It's important that we give some of that time back to those who deserve it from us. You'll notice as you continue the cycle of giving it comes back to you full fold. Sometimes in ways that we could never imagine. There is a blessing in being a fair person, a supportive person but only if you support people who appreciate it. We have to be careful not to wear ourselves thin for those who could care less about our journey or our energy.
There are so many ways to support other women. One is by simply sharing a contact for a service or product to someone in need. Word of mouth promotions are one of the best ways to expand and grow a business. It costs you nothing to do this. Another way to support each other is to buy or test a service and provide a recommendation. This ties back into word of mouth promotions and also aids to the their business credibility.
I encourage us ladies to be more supportive. Lets stick together, share ideas and partner more in the future to accomplish our dreams together!


Danielle W.
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